I have heard many times from mums with domestic maid’s help that their children are closer to the maid than to them and they don’t feel good about it. Which is also why the children will feel lost or upset when you change maid? How then can we create and improve our bond with our children when the maid is spending more time with our children than us, working parents?
I, personally, prefer to take care of my girl than to care of her to a maid which is why I don’t hire one. As for those working parents who require maid’s help, you can still create and improve the bond with your child by taking care of their daily needs personally. Just few days back, I have just learned from a child psychologist that we can create the opportunity to bond with our child. For instance, in feeding your young child, you can ask your maid to prepare the meals but you feed your child personally. As for bathing, you can also ask your maid to help get ready all the necessary items but you bathe your child personally. Likewise, you can also ask your maid to help get your child ready for school but you send your child to childcare centre or see him off to school personally. Like accompanying him downstairs to wait for the school bus together and seeing him off personally. When your child sees that you are the one helping him, he will feel that you are more important than your maid and you mean more to him.
Hope that the above sharing is helpful to all mums who have maid’s or grandparents’ help in taking care of their children. Happy parenting and bonding with your children!
